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Day #25

Save the best 'til last...

My day begins as I roll over and put my feet on the floor.
The beginning of another day and thankful for this opportunity of having another day.

Trudge to the kitchen, make coffee, dole out the pills, pop the toast in the toaster and settle in with the morning paper.
Same routine, day after day.
Read the Dallas Morning News.
Start with the headlines... usually depressing.
Read the business section. Omit the sports section.
Read the arts section.

I have left the best 'til last... the metro section.
Local news is also depressing: shootings, building more roads, child abuse, burglaries,and once in a while, news of something good.

And that brings me to the obituaries in the metro section of the paper.
Remember how I said we all have a story to tell? Well, this is the last chance and why not make it a good one?

I have been collecting interesting obituaries for well over 5 years now.
I know, I know... it sounds a bit strange.
As a matter of fact, I did not tell anyone about this hobby for quite some time as I too felt it was a bit strange.

It all started when I read one that had no photo but it listed date of birth and date of death, and of course I had to do the math.
He was a young fella and this is what it said:
"There will be no services. If you wished to see me, you would have seen me while I was alive."
End of obituary!

No... I did not clip that one because I had no idea that it would have such an impact on my life.
The words of this obit haunted me. Obviously, he knew he was dying and he was feeling bitter and alone.
And I wondered if maybe he had AIDS and his family and friends had shunned him.
My heart weeped for this young man.
I so badly wanted to know the rest of the story, and I was sure there was a huge story to go with his brief obit, but I never found that out.

That's when I started looking for and collecting interesting obits.
I now have 20 books filled and more to be logged in. You would not believe what I have found!

Some are so touching that they bring tears to your eyes even though you did not know the person.
Others are inspiring as they tell about overcoming great obstacles in life.
Some share tragedy at what should be the best of times in a person's life.
Some are just plain funny and make me wish I had known that quirky person in real life.
But they all teach a lesson in some way or another about life in general and what is really important.
They cut through the mundane and get to the heart of the matter.

I have them divided into sections.
I have the hat ladies and the hat men wearing their favorite chapeau in their photo.

Interesting ways we go: "flew with the angels", "passed into the arms of Jesus", "left for the milky way", etc.

And then there are those with a favorite pet in their arms, or the one that looks like a photograph and then when you read the obituary you realize it is a self portrait painted by the deceased.

I find the ones about inventors to be some of my favorites.
I have the inventor of the hoola hoop, the frisbee, the smiley face (who knew?), the artificial heart, etc., etc., etc.

One of my favorite inventors was Jack Kilby.
He won the Nobel Prize, was from Dallas and has changed our lives... every one of our lives, more than anyone else in our lifetime.
Yet, I venture to say, no one recognizes his name or can tell me what he invented.
And here you have the rest of the story! Be sure to read about Jack and his amazing invention and how it has impacted your life!
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Mairéad26-Sep-2013 20:30
As Mieke says this is a cosy scene and an insight into your morning routine.
I wrote many obits when I was a young reporter - a more difficult task than one might imagine. Hard to sum up a person's life in a few hundred words and awful if you made a mistake and had distraught relatives to deal with.
Guest 26-Sep-2013 16:46
"flew with the angels", "passed into the arms of Jesus", "left for the milky way"....interesting for sure
Mieke WA Minkjan26-Sep-2013 07:37
I like to read the obituaries too! And I wrote one for my friend Fay, which was published in the Age,
a Melbourne newspaper.
I was proud that I was able to write her obituary, as English is not my native language, it took me two months to do.
I like your photo Fay, it expresses a kind of cosiness, coffee and toast and it shows a great interest in people.
wernere0125-Sep-2013 23:54
Not the side I read, I usually start with sports (LOL). But sometimes I like to visit cementaries (especially old ones), to read the inscriptions on the stones.
Janice Dunn25-Sep-2013 22:38
That is a sad story about the young man. At my husband's funeral last year over 200 people came - He'd been sick for a long time and I wished more had come and visited him before he died. He'd have loved to have seen them.
Chris25-Sep-2013 21:49
Jack Kilby was part of the development team of the integrated circuit. What would we do without it?
And, no, not morbid. I spend hours in cemeteries, reading the plaques and just wondering. I read obits and find it worrying that many of the deceased are younger than me, but you are right some are even funny. Another good read from you today Fay!
LynnH25-Sep-2013 19:08
I don't think this is a morbid or odd hobby at all. I am always fascinated by obits too.
Here is one you'll enjoy... I laughed my tail off.
http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/savannah/obituary.aspx?n=william-mccullough-freddie&pid=166950349&#fbLoggedOut
J. Scott Coile25-Sep-2013 16:19
I still have to hit the ground running. It will catch me soon and very soon...
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