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19-APR-2006 Karen Stuebing

Flowers for Nellie

West Virginia

I took Nellie to the doctor's yesterday. She has had a chronic infection in her foot for a month now despite a regimen of oral antibiotics or "the biotics that are making me sick" as she says.

It isn't the "biotics" that are making her sick. It is the fact her daily glucose levels are close to 300 and have now started to fluctuate wildly from that high down to 50. I've gotten to where I can look at her and run for the orange juice without even testing. She is adamant that her diet makes no difference and eats whatever she wants.

I have been preaching to her for weeks now, using a combination of scare tactics and sweet talk. It is finally beginning to sink in. Unfortunately, she interpreted it as food being the enemy and will hardly eat anything now which of course causes her glucose levels to skyrocket.

However, after continuous nagging, I got her to agree to a whole new diet that does not include fried food and white bread and biscuits and cake and candy.

It has turned out to be too late. She has deteriorated rapidly over the past week to the point where she could not get out of bed into her wheelchair without assistance and complained that she hurt all over and lapsed into a lethargic state.

The doctor took one look at her foot and went to write an order to admit her to the hospital. That woke her up. She started yelling she wasn't going in the hospital. The doctor, who has always been sweet to her, got very angry and said, "It's your body. If you want to lose your foot, I can't stop you. I expect to see you in that hospital tonight."

She insisted she go home first. So we went. As we went up the drive she marveled at her tulips which she hasn't even been outside to see. Once inside, she started crying and saying her life was over. I explained for the one hundredth time that she was feeling so bad because her uncontrolled diabetes was finally catching up with her. She was still skeptical. She insisted she was a burden on everyone and wanted to die.

These flowers are from her garden. She's been too depressed to let me take her outside on these beautiful warm spring days. They're for her. Along with a prayer that the damage is minimal and that a course of "biotics" and a carefully monitored diet will soon have her home, her old feisty self.

WV has the fourth highest rate for diabetes in the country. No one knows why. It tends to manifest itself in older, females with less education. The hardest population to work with as I've discovered. It is very difficult to convince them how dangerous it is and how a complete diet change is in order.

It is so bad here that whenever I go to a new patient the first question I ask is "Do you have sugar?" and the answer is usually yes. The state has started an agressive education program. However, the targeted population is the most resistant to change. They tend to hear only the parts they want to. For example, one woman who hasn't had a pop in years sent me to Dairy Queen for a Moo Latte.

Unfortunately, it seems the only things that makes an impression are when parts of their feet are amputated or they go into diabetic comas a few times.

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Jean Law-Bottorf 23-Apr-2008 00:00
My mom was the same way when she had sugar-had AZ as well so could never get her to understand the importance of diet.
Guest 22-Apr-2006 14:10
Her flowers are beautiful and you captured them well. My prayers are for her and you as you care for her. She is fortunate to have you.
Herb 21-Apr-2006 12:43
Nice flowers, sad story
Gayle P. Clement21-Apr-2006 05:17
Beautiful flowers, Karen. Nellie is lucky to have you.
Greg Harp21-Apr-2006 03:51
Wonderful flowers Karen. I hope your client sees the light--she's worth saving because we're all worth saving. To denigrate any of us is to denigrate all of us. We're all created equal... My best to her.
joanteno21-Apr-2006 02:32
Wonderful job of telling the story.. DM is extremely frustrating disease when you are dealing with the complications of vascular disease..
Kathy Pedersen21-Apr-2006 01:40
A special vote for you, for helping people understand and to be aware...
Kathy Pedersen21-Apr-2006 01:38
Having diabetes, as I now do....is a rough struggle, one that we easily forget that what we eat effects us. I can relate to her frustrations, but know in my heart that she needs to take care of herself....Many Blessings to you for taking care of her....You are both in my prayers. You image is a wonderful tribute and a good lesson for others who have sugar problems!

Blessings
Kathy
Barb20-Apr-2006 23:13
Beautiful shot of the flowers. Hope you can help her and she is better soon.
Al Chesworth20-Apr-2006 21:26
Nice flowers Karen, i cant help but feel sorry for many older people.
They have neither had the education or the opportunity to move beyond there local circle.
Life can be cruel, however the work you do DOES make a difference, even though at times you may feel disheartened think what would happen if there were no people doing your valuable work.
Rosi Blaurock20-Apr-2006 21:21
Beautiful shot.
laine8220-Apr-2006 20:48
Dealing with the elderly & frail is difficult but when stubborness is added it is extremely so. They are lucky to have a carer like you who is also a dab hand with the camera. Yellows are not always easy either but you nailed these beauties.
akleja20-Apr-2006 19:15
Pretty flowers! Nice shot!
Bryan Murahashi20-Apr-2006 15:17
Beautiful flowers. It must be hard to see the deterioation in Nellie. It's very
difficult to break a lifetime of bad eating habits. Glad that your are there to help
and hope Nellie gets better soon.
royalld20-Apr-2006 14:36
I am glad she got to see her beautiful tulips, and hope she gets home soon.
Nellie and your other patients are lucky to have you.
Coleen Perilloux Landry20-Apr-2006 14:12
You are so good with your patients and it does take a lot of "patience" to deal with stubborn people. Hope she enjoyed her flowers. Have been wondering about "Possum Man."
Breland20-Apr-2006 13:20
Beautiful flowers and Best Wishes to Nellie.
Katie Chew20-Apr-2006 13:09
Beautiful flowers. Hope she is better soon.
Guest 20-Apr-2006 13:03
Karen, your pictures and stories are always great. I hope you are collecting these. Could make a nice book, one that would serve as an inspiration to others. As photographers, we try to take interesting photos. You managed to take a normal photo and turn it into something a lot greater. I enjoy your daily entries.
Guest 20-Apr-2006 12:14
Hope she recovers:-) this pic will cheer her up I hope
Guest 20-Apr-2006 12:10
That's a sad story, Karen. Hope the flowers will give her a little bit of optimism.
Guest 20-Apr-2006 12:06
I am sure Nellie will enjoy these gorgeous flowers. I am type II myself. I am on a self-imposed strict diet and take no insulin or diabetic medicine. I eat only chicken, fish and vegetables for about 3.5 years now. Absolutely nothing else. My glucose is about 5.6. It works great! I do not suggest this to anybody, but lowering those carbs can only help.