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A final wish...

I am about to share with you what was probably one of the most emotional moments in my career.

My patient was in his early 60's and had married a woman considerably younger. This was his first marriage and they now had a 3 month old baby. His wife shared with me that this baby was his world. But now he lay in the hospital suffering from a massive heart attack. His heart was failing, his kidneys were failing and his lungs were filling with fluid. He was pale and diaphoretic. Multiple IV's were infusing with drugs to optimize the functioning of his heart. A special line called a Swan Ganz catheter measured his cardiac output. It was just a matter of time. I did everything I knew to try to make him more comfortable. I wrapped him in a warm blanket and asked if there was anything else I could do. He opened his eyes and looked at me. His eyes filled with tears as he said "I just want to see my baby". I felt a lump in my throat and I could feel the tears welling up in my eyes. How could I possibly tell him that we do not allow children under the age of 12 to visit? I rested my hand on his head... he closed his eyes and a tear rolled down his cheek.

Was that too much for this man to ask? I spoke with my supervisor... I pleaded... please let me have his wife bring the baby in the room... this is all he asks... he doesn't have much time...

The decision was made and I asked his wife to bring the baby in. I laid a clean white towel on his chest over the wires and monitor leads. She gently laid the baby on his chest and he wrapped his arms around his baby. Need I say that there was not a dry eye amongst the staff as we stood just outside of the door. My patient and the baby both fell asleep while the IV's dripped and the minutes ticked away. During that period of time he appeared at peace. His wife took the baby back to the waiting room. A few hours later... he died.

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Janice Dunn26-Sep-2013 20:44
Thank you Fay... You are a very special person. I have tears in my eyes ready this.
Margot W13-May-2011 18:04
I tearfully type this little thought.
That baby will know how loved he was always thanks to your knowing the difference between rules and compassion.
Guest 05-Nov-2009 14:03
OH boy, whew...that's my reaction. Be still my heart. What you nurses have to accomplish & share because you care in one day is beyond me. Your God's precious Angels here on earth and thank you so much for sharing this precious moment, and for allowing this man to rest in peace. Sincerely, a christian mother-in love(law) of a nurse. p.s. your photography is phenomenal.
laine04-Sep-2009 01:23
With tears in my eyes...thank you for being one of the many so dedicated to the caring & comfort of those who need it....your star shines brightly Fay.
Pat Shawyer23-Apr-2009 16:44
Oh my goodness Fay...I'm done for...
Carol Rollins21-Feb-2009 03:53
I am so glad you fought for the man to see his baby one last time. What a touching story Fay.
Thanks for sharing this with your beautiful photo.
Paul L-R21-Feb-2009 00:26
Thanks for sharing this, Fay. A very dear friend of mine passed away last week and I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes words are not enough.......
Guest 20-Feb-2009 20:42
My husand, Chad sent this to me. What a neat story! Very touching to us right now as my Mom (58) is dying of cancer. She has battled for 20 years and it is now winning. While she has little strength she still fights. But bringing the grandkids over will brighten her mood and make her forget everything else (as much as possible). I often wonder after we leave with our kids, Is that it? I"m assuming you are a nurse or something like that! I have so much respect for nurses and special ones like you! For all the "thank you's" you don't get, please know that I cherish the special nurses I have met & I'm sure there are tons of people who feel the same way about you, whatever your position is! Thank you for sharing your story! Maureen Ramsey
Chad Ramsey20-Feb-2009 01:51
Well, you've got me in tears! A beautiful touching story as well as photo! Your line of work must be rewarding too but at times like this... its hard to know what to say. sigh...
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