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17-APR-2007 Karen Stuebing

Spring is not the same this year

West Virginia

The spring snows have taken their toll on the trees and flowers. Still it is beautiful here. It always is. Life is hard so I like to think that God made these mountains to sustain the people who live here.

This photo is for Nell who passed two days ago. She loved spring and her gardens full of blooms. It seems fitting somehow that the flowers won't be there this year.

She died in a nursing home. She had been wheelchair bound for a few years due to a stroke caused by diabetes. While still at home, her diabetes raged out of control. She was getting sores on her toes and insulin was no longer effective in lowering her glucose levels.

After the nurses had to use a ladder to get into a bedroom window every visit because she would be laying on the floor having attempted to get into her wheelchair from the bed, Adult Protective Services was called in. They determined she needed 24 hour care and she was placed into a nursing home.

I knew she wouldn't last long with the loss of her independence.

I remember her fiestiness. When I'd go out and buy lunch, she'd tell me to bring her back a man. She was in love with her doctor so a visit meant doing her hair and getting all dressed up with jewelry and make up.

One time when we went, I put a post it on her shirt that said "I love you, Doctor. Nell. xoxox" He laughed and laughed and said she had made his day.

We watched the stories every afternoon. I'll never get to say "I told you so" because I knew EJ was going to turn out to be a bad guy. I haven't been able to turn them on since she went into the nursing home but I did hear that EJ was the glove.

Toward the end, we talked of dying. She said wistfully that she just wished she could run up the hill one more time. That is how I picture her. Not passing in some anonymous hospital bed but running like a deer up a big ol hill and taking flight into that beautiful blue WV sky.

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Ann Cleeves20-May-2007 23:18
Wonderful image & tribute story, Karen. You are a remarkable kind lady.
carol j. phipps12-May-2007 01:27
Blessings, Carol
carol j. phipps12-May-2007 01:27
I saw it,too, Karen!
Greg Harp20-Apr-2007 21:49
Gorgeous shot and tribute Karen. You do such marvelous work. GMV
Rosi Blaurock20-Apr-2007 18:39
Nice shot.
1moremile19-Apr-2007 23:56
Beautiful, Karen.
The photo, the tribute, WV and your friend.
Barb19-Apr-2007 20:03
Beautiful view and memorial to your friend.
Focus19-Apr-2007 16:25
I'm getting to the point that I enjoy your writing ever bit as much as I enjoy your photos....you have a good soul.
Laryl19-Apr-2007 16:04
leaves me teary and speechless.. thank you
Bryan Murahashi19-Apr-2007 05:42
Beautiful view and memorial for your friend, Nell.
Guest 19-Apr-2007 03:48
She didn't die anonymously in a nursing home. You have helped her, shared this last cycle of her life with her and brought back this scene. A touching tribute.
Roe..19-Apr-2007 02:30
Karen do you know that I remember Nell by her beautiful smile? You touched each other..this image is very very special..
1105191218-Apr-2007 20:11
Thank you for your depiction of a life. That is so much why I like coming here. You are a special person
to fathom these episodes. A friend and Grama passing within a year has nearly wiped me totally out. But
we need these stories to keep us focused on what really is important, and, why we are.
Thanks again.
laine8218-Apr-2007 15:17
I hope she got her wish, Karen !!
Guest 18-Apr-2007 14:44
great photo and nice memorial
Char18-Apr-2007 13:03
Hi Karen,
A truly beautiful scene and a wonderful vignette about Nell. She was so lucky to have someone like you. Someone that cared about her and made her last days enjoyable.