Jennifer asked one day, "What would you think if I cut my hair short?" "You would look like an old lady," I replied. She said, "But I am an old lady!" "Chronologically we're getting there, but attitude wise, we're younger than that now."

It brought back memories of an occasion when we went to see Mary Travers of Peter, Paul and Mary. She did a show in a very small venue in our area, accompanied only by a piano player. After the show, she came down into the audience and talked with fans. I told her how as a twelve year old boy, I had a crush on her, and how I realized that she alone changed the look of American women, with her long straight hair. She looked at Jennifer and said, "And I see you went out and found your own Mary." I had never thought of it that way, but she was right. Mary still had long straight hair; still looked great, crowding seventy.

Jennifer and I have come to the understanding that ageing is also an attitude, and that you can never, ever, give in.